I’m Monica Fraser — adventurer, yogini, healing practitioner
& muse for highly-creative women.
I’m on a mission to help women bring their creative progeny into the world::
books, works of art, paradigm shifting philosophies, intuitive frameworks, soul businesses & cultural revolutions.
I believe the primary fuel for productivity is Self Care, and that every woman can feel Full at the finish line.
I see lush & limitless possibility everywhere — in everyone I meet.
I see it in you.
So, let me ask you a question:
what were you born to Create?
Each time I see a post or an image quote on FB about "deserving better" it mystifies me. There's something about this word that feels so incomplete. I have noticed that whenever I have felt I "deserved better" I am simultaneously missing the lesson offered within the experience.
We have all said it at one time; "She deserves so much better than that lousy bum" while she continues to stay and suffer. Or she may leave her situation and then find herself in the same predicament again (and again), each time hoping that it will be different.
When dealing with loss, there comes a time when you simply have to move through it. No matter how loss arrives; the completion of a relationship, the idea of the life you had planned, a passionate business venture that went array, financial loss, uncertainty and most certainly death; the act of being busy, tea with girlfriends, working, shopping, unconscious indulging in wine and food is no longer enough to alleviate the breathtaking feeling of loneliness.
Be kind to yourself. You are just empty. If only you could know how much Self Love will transform your life. Two simple words that have no meaning until you decide it's time to surrender to them.
My time to surrender came a few years ago while was knee deep in Post Partum Depression. Because I had "come back" from a much darker place 10 years earlier I did not seek help or support during this period. I thought I had it handled. I had an incredibly strong and stoic disposition. Nobody would have guessed there was anything wrong. After all, I was the "Perfect Mom".
So often we say we don't know what we want.
The truth is that we are scared. We are scared to say "IT" out loud.
To say YES to ourselves. Our dreams.
We are scared that our idea is silly. That the genius idea won't happen, again. That we don't have enough energy. That we will have to risk things we don't want to risk. That our life will change and we will feel sacred, alone or without enough resources.
These fears are all real. But lets not pretend and say "I don't know."
There is a special kind of dance you must learn to release the emotional trauma that drains your energy.
I learned this dance because I trust one truth about my life:
Everything that shows up, is a gift to move closer to love.
So feel what you feel. Let yourself go into the feeling that surfaces when you are triggered by a crisis showing up in your life.
Feel what you feel when the crisis recalls the times of abandonment, betrayal, abuse, judgment, criticism, loneliness, hatred, the impulse for revenge, the thoughts of giving up completely . . .
As today promises the birth of spring and new possibility in the Northern Hemisphere, lets also take the time to acknowledge the winter we have come through.